User as Engram: Internalizing Per-User Memory as Local Parametric Edits

Personalizing large language models (LLMs) requires encoding long-term, user-specific behavioral patterns in a way that is computationally efficient, scalable, and compatible with a frozen base model. We present Latent Personal Memory (LPM), a scalable framework that represents user-specific history as a compact, persistent matrix of N latent slots, that are interpretable. A shared cross-attention projection network maps these slots into dynamic, input-conditioned soft prompts that are prepended to the input of a frozen LLM. We evaluate LPM on PersonaMem v1 and LoCOMO benchmarks across Qwen3-1.7B, 4B, and 8B backbones. Results demonstrate that LPM outperforms LoRA and Prompt Tuning by up to 8.8% and 54.4% in overall accuracy respectively on PersonaMem v1, while reducing KV-cache usage by over 64x. On LoCoMo, LPM matches LoRA accuracy with 120x fewer trainable parameters. We also show that the efficiency of LPM grows with context length and outperforms full-context at 128K context length.

User-side memory in LLMs is typically scored as a single "personalization" capability: given a user's history, is the output more user-aware? We show this aggregate metric hides opposite-direction failures. Memory factorises into at least three orthogonal axes -- behavioral consistency (style, voice), factual presence (recall facts in history), and factual absence (abstain when a fact is absent) -- and no single substrate wins all three. Comparing per-user gamma-LoRA (a small LoRA adapter trained on each user's history; gamma denotes per-user, not per-task) against BGE-large dense top-K retrieval on a controlled 50-user synthetic corpus and a real-data probe (LaMP-3), we find gamma-LoRA decisively wins behavioral style while RAG decisively wins factual absence -- and the same query-projection cells in attention layers 21-35 causally load-bear both effects in opposite directions (zeroing those LoRA weights raises absence-probe TPR by +33 pp and drops presence-probe TPR by 20 pp). On the more heavily RLHF-tuned Llama-3.1-8B-Instruct the asymmetry strengthens, not heals: parametric memory's behavioral advantage collapses while its absence-calibration deficit against retrieval widens -- an alignment tax on parametric user-memory. On real-data LaMP-3, gamma-LoRA underperforms a majority baseline; a 9-condition mitigation sweep diagnoses this as instruction-following collapse, not substrate failure (a 9x2 cross-product shows the eval-time {1..5} logit mask drives main_acc to >=0.995 on every recipe), and the best training-time fix replicates bit-identically on Llama. Finally, substrate-selection routing is question-classification, not calibration: a 110M DistilBERT on the question text alone beats every logit-based router. We contribute the diagnostic framework, the diagnosed real-data negative, the alignment-tax replication, and the routing-as-classification finding.

Personalization changes what a model says to a user; we show that it can also change the reasoning trajectory used to justify the response. Modern LLMs personalize interactions by storing user attributes, preferences, and prior context, then injecting this information into future prompts. We study whether such memory reshapes reasoning on open-ended questions where no single ground-truth answer exists. To quantify this effect, we introduce DRIFTLENS, a ground-truth-free framework that maps each expressed reasoning step to a value category and measures divergence between a question's no-memory trajectory and its trajectory under injected user-attribute memory. We first validate that DRIFTLENS distinguishes content-free pragmatic noise from substantive reasoning changes. Across four LLMs and 10 user-attribute categories, including age, occupation, and disability, user-attribute memory induces medium-to-large reasoning drift above each model's pragmatic-noise floor, even when final answers remain fluent, on-topic, and plausible. We then evaluate GRPO- and DPO-based post-training methods for reducing drift. Both reduce drift, but neither uniformly dominates; effects on downstream capability, helpfulness, and instruction following are model-and reward-dependent. These results suggest that memory-induced reasoning drift is a measurable and only partly mitigated failure mode of personalized language models.