Position: The Term "Machine Unlearning" Is Overused in LLMs

Machine unlearning for large language models (LLMs) often assumes that a pre-defined forget set matches what the model has memorized, but this frequently breaks in realistic privacy settings where the original training data is inaccessible. We term this gap forget-set misalignment and identify two cases. In Under Unlearning, the forget set omits memorized information and leakage persists. In Out-of-Knowledge Unlearning, the algorithm is driven to "forget" knowledge the model never learned, perturbing parameters and degrading utility. Using gradient-level analysis, we show these behaviors arise from misaligned unlearning targets rather than specific optimization choices. We then propose CONfession-to-Forget-Set (CONFS), a data-blind framework that constructs model-aligned forget sets by eliciting and formalizing the model's memorized knowledge. Across synthetic, multimodal, and real-world benchmarks, CONFS approaches Gold-standard performance on several metrics and achieves a competitive forgetting-utility balance, while preserving utility better than other data-blind forget-set constructions.

Machine unlearning for large language models (LLMs) aims to remove specified knowledge while preserving the rest of the model's capabilities. However, the boundary between knowledge to forget and knowledge to retain is often unclear, since related and even distant information may be entangled in the model. In this paper, we study LLM unlearning from a data-centric perspective and measure how unlearning effects propagate from the forget set to same-domain and distant-domain knowledge. We find a consistent decay pattern: collateral damage is strongest near the forget set, weakens with semantic distance, but does not disappear at domain boundaries. We further ask whether such damage can be audited before unlearning is executed. We formulate forget-set auditing as a pre-unlearning prediction task and analyze which data features are most predictive of downstream damage. Our results show that interaction features between the forget set and evaluation set provide the strongest signals, suggesting that collateral damage is partly reflected in data geometry before model updates occur. These findings position forget-set auditing as an early warning tool for identifying risky unlearning runs and designing more reliable unlearning procedures.

Machine unlearning in LLMs is the targeted removal of specific knowledge while preserving all other capabilities, critical for privacy and safety. Yet existing benchmarks measure it unreliably. They miss knowledge that resurfaces under paraphrased or indirect queries, a failure we call under-forgetting, and lack the semantic, syntactic, and lexical probes needed to verify that unrelated knowledge is preserved, a failure we call over-forgetting. Both failures reflect an asymmetric generalization problem. Forget evaluation must cover diverse query formulations of the same target facts, testing whether forgetting holds beyond exact training prompts. Retain evaluation must probe a far larger and implicitly defined set, namely every fact disjoint from the forget target. The retain set thus defines the effective forget set, yet current datasets provide no fine-grained annotation of this forget-retain boundary. We address this with SUITE, an evaluation protocol and training corpus that captures forget-retain structure for real-world factual domains. Methods trained on SUITE improve substantially, showing that training data is as important as algorithmic design. Building on the obtained insights, we introduce JensUn++, an unlearning algorithm that achieves the best forget-retain utility trade-off across three LLMs, in both sequential and joint unlearning settings. Code and datasets are available at https://amitpeleg.github.io/forget-narrowly-retain-broadly