Batch Size or Negatives? A Selection Rule for Memory-Constrained Recommender Training

Early ranking stages in recommendation systems precompute item embeddings and cache them in-model for scoring within strict latency constraints. Because this cache exists only at serving time, outside the training loop, training and serving use different item representations, a structural discrepancy that limits quality and adds operational fragility. We show that co-designing the training and serving paths removes this representation discrepancy at its source. We introduce the memory layer, an in-model key-value embedding cache co-trained with the model: the item tower writes embeddings during training and the model reads them at serving, one source of truth for item representations by construction. Always-on embeddings cover items not yet cached, so every item receives a prediction, and the design consolidates three separate trainer-to-predictor update paths into a single self-contained pipeline. Deployed in production on Instagram Reels, the memory layer raises prediction coverage from 96% to 100%, improves embedding freshness from $O(5\text{ min})$ to $O(20\text{ s})$, and narrows the training-serving Normalized Entropy (NE) gap by up to 86%, yielding over $2\times$ recall for the freshest content and a 5-6% cold start engagement lift. Because embeddings are produced during training, the system needs no separate bulk-evaluation or publish-time recomputation, cutting training-and-publish computational cost by 30% at neutral serving computational cost.

In large language model (LLM)-based recommendation systems, direct preference optimization (DPO) effectively aligns recommendations with user preferences, requiring multi-negative objective functions to leverage abundant implicit-feedback negatives and sharpen preference boundaries. However, our empirical analyses reveal a counterintuitive phenomenon, preference optimization collapse, where increasing the number of negative samples can lead to performance degradation despite a continuously decreasing training loss. We further theoretically demonstrate that this collapse arises from gradient suppression, caused by the dominance of easily discriminable negatives over boundary-critical negatives that truly define user preference boundaries. As a result, boundary-relevant signals are under-optimized, weakening the model's decision boundary. Motivated by these observations, we propose DynamicPO (Dynamic Preference Optimization), a lightweight and plug-and-play framework comprising two adaptive mechanisms: Dynamic Boundary Negative Selection, which identifies and prioritizes informative negatives near the model's decision boundary, and Dual-Margin Dynamic beta Adjustment, which calibrates optimization strength per sample according to boundary ambiguity. Extensive experiments on three public datasets show that DynamicPO effectively prevents optimization collapse and improves recommendation accuracy on multi-negative preference optimization methods, with negligible computational overhead. Our code and datasets are available at https://github.com/xingyuHuxingyu/DynamicPO.

Generative recommendation (GR) has emerged as a promising direction for recommender systems. Recently, large language models (LLMs) have been increasingly adopted for GR, as their rich pretrained knowledge is expected to help them generalize beyond common user behavior patterns that traditional memorization-oriented baselines can capture. However, existing LLM-based GR works largely ignore LLMs' well-known tendency to memorize, which, if present in LLMs fine-tuned for GR, would restrict their utilization of pretrained knowledge. In this work, we investigate this concern by examining one-hop memorization, where a model recommends items that are direct successors of items in the training data. We show that LLMs do this more than non-LLM-based GR models-in fact, the vast majority of their gains over GR baselines are actually on users whose target items can be predicted through one-hop memorization. We intuit that improving performance on the remaining users requires LLMs to learn richer item-item relations beyond one-hop transitions. To achieve this, we propose IIRG, a novel training strategy that teaches LLMs to capture: (1) collaborative relations derived from item co-occurrences across multiple hops in user sequences, and (2) semantic relations among items with similar themes, both of which can serve as useful recommendation signals. We show that IIRG significantly improves over LLMs trained solely with standard next-item prediction, with especially large gains for users whose test items are not covered by train-time one-hop transitions.