Graph-Guided Selective Unlearning for Language Models: Controlling Support Routes Beyond Forget Seeds

Machine Unlearning methods for Large Language Models typically assume pre-specified forget and retain sets. In realistic settings, however, requests may provide only a few examples of undesired behavior, requiring forget and retain sets to be inferred from heterogeneous corpora. We study this data-selection problem and propose GRACE , a gradient-guided coreset selection method that constructs both forget and retain sets for LLM unlearning. GRACE first computes a forget direction from seed examples that elicit the undesired behavior, then selects a compact forget coreset whose gradients approximate this direction using non-negative orthogonal matching pursuit. To preserve model utility, it selects retain examples after projecting out the forget direction and applying clustered orthogonal matching pursuit in the remaining gradient space. Across two target domains, two model families, and four unlearning algorithms, GRACE improves model utility while maintaining comparable forget quality, with particularly consistent gains over prior gradient-based selection methods.

While an unlearned language model may no longer recall a fact directly, the fact often remains recoverable through multi-hop reasoning over related knowledge. Most existing unlearning techniques overlook this vulnerability, targeting facts in isolation while leaving their supporting knowledge intact. To achieve true forgetting, we propose a general deep unlearning framework compatible with existing unlearning algorithms. Our approach adaptively explores both explicit responses and latent internal representations to discover valid reasoning paths, compiles them into a confidence-aware supporting subgraph, and we apply a graph minimum cut to sever all recovery paths while preserving unrelated knowledge. To rigorously evaluate deep unlearning, we introduce a model-specific pipeline that extracts and completes knowledge graphs from raw text, filtering them by calibrated model confidence to reflect what the model genuinely retains. Comprehensive experiments demonstrate that selectively unlearning supporting knowledge yields substantially deeper forgetting than superficial methods while preserving model utility, highlighting that genuine unlearning requires breaking the relational structures that enable factual reconstruction.

Machine unlearning for large language models (LLMs) aims to selectively remove memorized content such as private data, copyrighted text, or hazardous knowledge, without costly full retraining. Most existing methods require a retain set of curated examples to prevent catastrophic degradation of general model utility, creating an extra data dependency that complicates deployment. We propose SHRED (Self-distillation via High-surprisal-only Retain-set-free Entropy Demotion), a retain-set-free unlearning method built on a key insight: not all tokens within a forget set instance carry memorized information equally. High-information tokens concentrate the model's memorized knowledge, while low-information tokens reflect general language competence. SHRED operates in two stages. (1) Selection: We perform a forward pass on a forget set instance, collect per-token autoregressive probabilities, and select the bottom (lowest probability, highest Shannon information) as forget positions; the remaining positions are retained as benign anchors. (2) Training: We construct modified KL targets that demote the memorized token's logit at forget positions while preserving the original distribution at benign positions. The model is then trained via a single top KL self-distillation objective that simultaneously drives forgetting and utility preservation. We evaluate SHRED across four standard unlearning benchmarks and demonstrate that it establishes a new Pareto-optimal trade-off between forget efficacy and model utility, outperforming retain-set-dependent methods. Our analysis shows that SHRED is robust against relearning attacks and membership-inference attacks, and it maintains stable utility even after many sequential unlearning runs.