Deploying highly capable personalized conversational agents in resource-constrained or privacy-sensitive environments remains a significant challenge. We identify a fundamental bottleneck in the existing approaches: current training paradigms treat personalization and grounding as a single monolithic learning problem. Under these paradigms, language models are forced to simultaneously address what to say (content grounding) and how to say it in a user-specific way (personalization), which introduces significant computational and optimization challenges. Consequently, contextual grounding is often sacrificed for persona adherence, or vice versa, resulting in responses that are either weakly grounded in the conversational history or insufficiently personalized. In this work, we propose the Generic Response-Augmented Generation (GRAG) framework that decouples these competing objectives by leveraging offline, generic responses from high-capacity, general-purpose LLMs as a semantic and structural scaffold to guide the fine-tuning of smaller, task-specialized models seamlessly in resource-limited environments. By decoupling the content grounding from personalization, GRAG allows the model to focus exclusively on persona injection while remaining firmly anchored to the conversational context. We instantiate the GRAG in two post- and pre-fusion-based architectural variants and evaluate them on multiple benchmark conversational datasets that cover diverse personalization structures. Our results demonstrate that GRAG significantly outperforms state-of-the-art methods that do not use auxiliary scaffolding, yielding up to 47% improvements in ROUGE-2 and 36% in BLEU scores. Ultimately, GRAG offers a generalizable blueprint for building grounding-aware personalized conversational systems in resource-limited environments.
Large language models (LLMs) are increasingly deployed as personalized assistants that interact with users over extended periods of time. As conversations grow longer, relying on full interaction histories becomes increasingly inefficient and unreliable: long contexts introduce substantial computational overhead, making it difficult for models to consistently identify and utilize the most relevant information for the current request. These challenges have motivated memory systems that structure and retrieve user-specific information. In realistic interactions, users often seek practical guidance such as recommendations, planning, and decision support. Unlike factual recall tasks, personalized guidance requires models to integrate information across multiple past conversations and reason about changing user preferences and experiences. However, existing conversational memory evaluations mainly focus on retrieval and factual recall. To study this challenge, we introduce PRAGMA, a benchmark for evaluating personalized guidance in long-term conversations. PRGAMA contains curated longitudinal conversation histories, evidence annotations, and guidance scenarios grounded in evolving user contexts and incorrect user assumptions. Experiments across retrieval systems, memory systems, and long-context models reveal that current systems struggle both to recover the appropriate conversational evidence and to effectively use it for personalized guidance. Our results highlight the need for memory architectures that support robust conversational retrieval and memory-grounded reasoning beyond evidence recall.
Personalizing language models (LMs) to individual user preferences is essential for aligning responses with diverse goals and backgrounds. Existing methods typically train a separate adapter for each user or learn a reward model whose scores depend on the user. Despite explicitly optimizing for each user, these methods must learn from limited observations and therefore suffer from data sparsity and poor generalization to unseen users and domains. In-context learning (ICL) and Context Steering (CoS) can instead provide more effective personalization by conditioning the base LM directly on user context and leveraging its pretrained capabilities without per-user training. Yet neither adapts the influence of that context across decoding steps: ICL leaves it uncontrolled, whereas CoS applies a fixed steering coefficient and requires two LM forward passes per step. We propose Cautious Context Steering (CCS), which adds a lightweight adapter to a frozen backbone LM to decide at each token whether and how strongly user context should affect generation. The adapter learns this behavior from an oracle context-conditioned LM and preserves the base LM when the context is not helpful. A single CCS adapter trained on only one dataset improves generation quality both in-domain and across four out-of-distribution personalization benchmarks, demonstrating robust generalization to new users and domains. CCS also avoids per-user fine-tuning and the additional context-conditioned forward pass required by CoS, substantially reducing inference cost.
Typical LLM responses tend to follow a default style, even though users often have distinct preferences regarding tone, verbosity, and formality that they do not explicitly state in their prompts. Evaluating whether personalization methods can adapt to these implicit preferences is challenging, since users typically provide prompts rather than reference responses, style preferences are not factually verifiable, and reference-free LLM judges may conflate personalization with general response quality. To address these challenges, we introduce the Arbitrary Preference Mapping (APM) benchmark, which decouples user attributes (e.g. enthusiastic) from response principles (e.g. persuasive) via a hidden, randomized mapping C that maps user attributes to preferences about response traits. Because C carries no semantic content and is resampled across runs, models cannot exploit stereotypical associations and must infer preferences from conversation history. Using this unbiased evaluation methodology, we adapt retrieval-augmented, prompt-optimization, and routing personalization methods and evaluate them on Llama-3.1-8B and Qwen-3.5-27B. Our results show that routing is the most reliable approach, while RAG only improves with the stronger base LLM, and soft prompt optimization fails to improve significantly over a non-personalized baseline. Our extensive evaluation reveals that in this realistic setting, personalization remains challenging, but our adapted methods show promise.