Crossing the Margin Cliff: Toward Relearn-Robust LLM Unlearning via Margin Calibration

LLM unlearning aims to remove the influence of undesirable knowledge from pretrained language models, which offers a practical mechanism for addressing safety and privacy concerns. Existing unlearning approaches, such as Gradient Ascent, are prone to catastrophic forgetting. Alignment-based approaches provide an alternative direction, yet their effectiveness is limited by the quality of the reference model. In realistic settings, both methods still require large retention datasets to preserve general knowledge. We propose a principled method that quantifies the target LLM's confidence in undesirable knowledge and uses it to calibrate the model's unlearning gradient updates more precisely. It enables fine-grained control over forgetting while better preserving model utility, thus reducing the dependence on retention data or prohibitive unlearning training data. Extensive evaluations on multiple benchmarks, including MUSE and WMDP, show that our method achieves effective unlearning and improves the trade-off between knowledge removal and utility preservation compared with state-of-the-art methods.

Large Language Models (LLMs) can memorize and reproduce sensitive, copyrighted, or otherwise undesirable training content, creating privacy, safety, and regulatory concerns. Machine unlearning offers a practical alternative to full retraining, but many existing methods apply broad or fixed parameter updates that can degrade utility and remain brittle under deployment changes such as post-training quantization, where forgotten knowledge may partially re-emerge. We propose Forgetting Only What Matters via Unlearning Layers (FOM-UL), a layer-level unlearning framework that selects transformer layers using a forget-to-retain significance score. This score identifies layers with high influence on the forget set and low sensitivity to the retain set, allowing FOM-UL to concentrate updates where they are most effective while leaving most of the model unchanged. This targeted update strategy improves the forgetting-utility trade-off and provides an empirical path toward quantization-resilient unlearning by reducing the chance that small, diffuse updates are erased by low-bit rounding. Across TOFU, KnowUnDo, and MUSE-style evaluations, FOM-UL reduces residual memorization compared with strong GA, NPO, KLD, SURE, ReLearn, and LUNAR-based baselines while preserving retain-set utility close to the vanilla model. Under 8-bit and 4-bit post-training quantization, FOM-UL maintains stronger memorization suppression and utility preservation than competing methods, and adversarial prompt evaluations show lower recovery of forgotten content. Overall, FOM-UL provides an efficient unlearning strategy that improves targeted forgetting, utility preservation, and deployment robustness without claiming formal guarantees of erasure.

Machine unlearning for large language models (LLMs) often assumes that a pre-defined forget set matches what the model has memorized, but this frequently breaks in realistic privacy settings where the original training data is inaccessible. We term this gap forget-set misalignment and identify two cases. In Under Unlearning, the forget set omits memorized information and leakage persists. In Out-of-Knowledge Unlearning, the algorithm is driven to "forget" knowledge the model never learned, perturbing parameters and degrading utility. Using gradient-level analysis, we show these behaviors arise from misaligned unlearning targets rather than specific optimization choices. We then propose CONfession-to-Forget-Set (CONFS), a data-blind framework that constructs model-aligned forget sets by eliciting and formalizing the model's memorized knowledge. Across synthetic, multimodal, and real-world benchmarks, CONFS approaches Gold-standard performance on several metrics and achieves a competitive forgetting-utility balance, while preserving utility better than other data-blind forget-set constructions.