APDMem: Agent-Controlled Progressive Disclosure for Query-Adaptive Long-Term Memory

Long-term memory enables LLM agents to leverage past interactions, but dialogue histories quickly exceed the context window, forcing agents to retrieve relevant subsets at query time. Because useful evidence is sparse and scattered across verbose conversations, retrieval faces a fundamental tension: broadening recall improves coverage but floods downstream reasoning with noise, while compressing memories at write time eases retrieval but irreversibly discards details that future queries may need. We introduce LazyMem, which resolves this tension by deferring all memory construction to query time. Given a retrieved candidate pool, a lightweight model processes it in overlapping parallel windows, selectively retaining and compressing only query-relevant content. The model is trained with supervised fine-tuning followed by reinforcement learning, using a reward that jointly encourages the identification of relevant messages and the generation of compressions that are faithful to the source and useful for answering the query. On LongMemEval, LazyMem-4B achieves an LLM-judge accuracy of 0.85, outperforming the strongest non-oracle baseline while using only 213 answer-context memory tokens, 21.0 times fewer than the baseline. It further generalizes to LoCoMo without target-domain training and reduces mean latency relative to the prior query-time baseline. Code is available at https://github.com/allacnobug/LazyMem.

Long-term memory systems allow LLM agents to preserve information beyond a single context window, but most systems focus on storing and retrieving facts after extraction, leaving the write decision under-specified. What deserves memory can depend on the user's current task, topic, activity, or interaction partner, while uniform extraction applies one notion of importance across these different situations. We formulate this challenge as preference-conditioned write control and introduce AdaMem, which uses adaptive natural-language Memory Policies to personalize what an agent writes to memory. Each policy represents the user's memory preference for a particular interaction context, is updated from periodic feedback, and controls subsequent memory writing. We evaluate this loop in AdaMem-Bench, which assigns different memory preferences to six concurrent interaction personas across five ten-week stories. Across two extraction models and two feedback modes, AdaMem improves average QA accuracy over Mem0 from 80.0% to 84.35% while reducing persistent memory by 9.27%. Our analyses show that explicit feedback helps models learn better memory policies, but current models still struggle to translate those policies into reliably selective writing behavior. AdaMem thus demonstrates the promise of adaptive write control while exposing policy execution as a central limitation of current memory agents. Our code is publicly available: https://github.com/galaxyChen/AdaMem

Efficient long-term conversational memory requires retrieving sufficient evidence without indiscriminately expanding the context presented to the language model. This is challenging because relevant evidence may be distributed across multiple sessions, while compression may discard details needed for answering. Different queries therefore require different forms of memory access. To capture these demands, we formulate memory access along two dimensions: discovery breadth, which controls how broadly evidence is searched, and reading fidelity, which controls whether evidence is read in compact form or recovered from the original conversation. Based on this formulation, we introduce JustMem, which stores conversation history as compact atomic memories and adapts memory access along these two dimensions to each query. Specifically, LOOKUP handles local evidence, COMPOSE broadens discovery for distributed evidence, and REPLAY increases reading fidelity for fidelity-sensitive evidence. On LoCoMo and LongMemEval-S, JustMem achieves the highest mean accuracy and retrieval recall among the compared memory systems while using substantially fewer generative-model tokens for memory construction and inference.