Human memory adapts through selective forgetting: experiences become less accessible over time but can be reactivated by reinforcement or contextual cues. In contrast, memory-augmented LLM agents rely on "always-on" retrieval and "flat" memory storage, causing high interference and latency as histories grow. We introduce Oblivion, a memory control framework that casts forgetting as decay-driven reductions in accessibility -- not explicit deletion. Oblivion decouples memory control into read and write paths. The read path decides when to consult memory, based on agent uncertainty and memory buffer utility, avoiding redundant always-on access. The write path decides what to strengthen, by reinforcing memories contributing to forming the response. Together, this enables hierarchical memory organization that maintains persistent high-level strategies while dynamically loading details as needed. We evaluate on both static and dynamic long-horizon interaction benchmarks. Oblivion outperforms both direct and memory-augmented baselines, while reducing token cost by up to 73% at 120K interaction spans. These results show that treating memory as a control problem -- deciding when to retrieve and what to reinforce -- is essential for sustaining long-horizon agent performance.
Large Language Model (LLM) agents increasingly rely on external memory systems to accumulate experience across tasks. Yet nearly all existing approaches, from graph-structured memories to reflective insight stores, access memory through fixed, hand-designed heuristics. We argue that this static view of memory is a core bottleneck for agentic learning because optimal memory behavior is fundamentally context-dependent. The early stages of the tasks, benefit from minimal retrieval because memory is sparse; recurring goal types benefit from plan reuse rather than generic nearest-neighbor lookup; stuck agents benefit from re-retrieval with alternative queries; and across long task streams, the memory store itself must be consolidated and pruned to remain useful. We present Memory as a Controlled Process (MemCon), a framework that models memory operations as a Markov Decision Process and learns an online policy that adaptively decides when, what, and how much to retrieve, when to inject a distilled plan, and when to consolidate or forget. MemCon is backend-agnostic: it wraps any existing memory implementation, learns from task-by-task binary feedback with no pretraining and no additional LLM calls, and uses a lightweight tabular contextual bandit with UCB exploration that converges within tens of tasks. Across 6 benchmarks, 3 agent frameworks, and 3 LLM backbones, MemCon consistently outperforms multiple memory baselines by up to 15.2 points in task success while reducing token consumption by 5--20%.
Long-term memory systems allow LLM agents to preserve information beyond a single context window, but most systems focus on storing and retrieving facts after extraction, leaving the write decision under-specified. What deserves memory can depend on the user's current task, topic, activity, or interaction partner, while uniform extraction applies one notion of importance across these different situations. We formulate this challenge as preference-conditioned write control and introduce AdaMem, which uses adaptive natural-language Memory Policies to personalize what an agent writes to memory. Each policy represents the user's memory preference for a particular interaction context, is updated from periodic feedback, and controls subsequent memory writing. We evaluate this loop in AdaMem-Bench, which assigns different memory preferences to six concurrent interaction personas across five ten-week stories. Across two extraction models and two feedback modes, AdaMem improves average QA accuracy over Mem0 from 80.0% to 84.35% while reducing persistent memory by 9.27%. Our analyses show that explicit feedback helps models learn better memory policies, but current models still struggle to translate those policies into reliably selective writing behavior. AdaMem thus demonstrates the promise of adaptive write control while exposing policy execution as a central limitation of current memory agents. Our code is publicly available: https://github.com/galaxyChen/AdaMem
Large Language Models (LLMs) show promise as tool-using agents but remain limited in long-horizon tasks that require remembering, organizing, and reusing knowledge. Prior memory approaches aim to resolve the situation, but mainly focus on storing factual information. Recent work on procedural memory improves task reuse, yet often reduces to replaying past successes without addressing failure cases or online scalability. We introduce a unified and automatic memory framework that integrates semantic, episodic, and procedural memory in a bi-level design combining short-term and long-term stores. A multi-agent architecture with actor, memory, and critic agents enables automatic memory generation, reward annotation, and adaptive retrieval. Long-term memory is managed through reward-based evaluation, merging, and pruning, ensuring scalability and continual improvement. Experiments across various environments show that our approach improves robustness and success on long multi-turn tasks compared to existing baselines. This work highlights the importance of comprehensive, adaptive memory for advancing LLM-based agents.