Long-horizon language agents must operate under limited runtime memory, yet existing memory mechanisms often organize experience around descriptive criteria such as relevance, salience, or summary quality. For an agent, however, memory is valuable not because it faithfully describes the past, but because it preserves the distinctions between histories that must remain separated under a fixed budget to support good decisions. We cast this as a decision-centric rate-distortion problem, measuring memory quality by the loss in achievable decision quality induced by compression. This yields an exact forgetting boundary for what can be safely forgotten, and a memory-distortion frontier characterizing the optimal tradeoff between memory budget and decision quality. Motivated by this decision-centric view of memory, we propose DeMem, an online memory learner that refines its partition only when data certify that a shared state would induce decision conflict, and prove near-minimax regret guarantees. On both controlled synthetic diagnostics and long-horizon conversational benchmarks, DeMem yields consistent gains under the same runtime budget, supporting the principle that memory should preserve the distinctions that matter for decisions, not descriptions.
Large language model (LLM) agents are increasingly expected to operate over long-term interactions, where information from past dialogues must be preserved and recalled to support future tasks. However, as interactions accumulate, the memory store grows without bound and fills with redundant entries that inflate storage cost and degrade retrieval by crowding out the most useful evidence. Furthermore, this is especially limiting on resource-constrained platforms with hard memory budgets, motivating us to formulate storage-budgeted memory management, the task of keeping an already constructed memory store within a fixed budget while preserving information useful for future interactions. To this end, we then propose MemRefine, an LLM-guided framework that, since surface similarity poorly reflects factual value, uses similarity only to propose candidate pairs and defers delete, merge, and preserve decisions to an LLM judge based on factual content, iterating until the budget is met. Across multiple memory frameworks and long-term conversation benchmarks, MemRefine consistently meets target budgets while preserving downstream performance and outperforming rule-based baselines under tight budgets.
Long-term memory systems allow LLM agents to preserve information beyond a single context window, but most systems focus on storing and retrieving facts after extraction, leaving the write decision under-specified. What deserves memory can depend on the user's current task, topic, activity, or interaction partner, while uniform extraction applies one notion of importance across these different situations. We formulate this challenge as preference-conditioned write control and introduce AdaMem, which uses adaptive natural-language Memory Policies to personalize what an agent writes to memory. Each policy represents the user's memory preference for a particular interaction context, is updated from periodic feedback, and controls subsequent memory writing. We evaluate this loop in AdaMem-Bench, which assigns different memory preferences to six concurrent interaction personas across five ten-week stories. Across two extraction models and two feedback modes, AdaMem improves average QA accuracy over Mem0 from 80.0% to 84.35% while reducing persistent memory by 9.27%. Our analyses show that explicit feedback helps models learn better memory policies, but current models still struggle to translate those policies into reliably selective writing behavior. AdaMem thus demonstrates the promise of adaptive write control while exposing policy execution as a central limitation of current memory agents. Our code is publicly available: https://github.com/galaxyChen/AdaMem
Long-horizon language agents accumulate observations, reasoning traces, and retrieved facts exceeding context windows, making memory retention a fundamental resource-allocation problem. Existing systems treat retention as local and do not model long-term consequences under observability constraints. To fill this gap, we formulate memory retention as a constrained stochastic optimization with budget feasibility, evidence utility, and delayed costs including miss, reacquisition, and stale penalties. We show this multi-step problem is NP-hard, making exact solution intractable. Moreover, deployment decisions must be made under partial observability. To address these challenges, we propose OSL-MR (Observability-Safe Learning for Memory Retention), a learning-augmented framework that enforces a strict separation between online-observable features and offline-available supervision. OSL-MR combines an evidence learner trained from realized evidence with a Mixed-Score heuristic that serves as a deployable online-safe baseline and an inductive prior. The policy learns query-conditioned evidence from interaction data and remains deployable under the same constraints. Experiments on LoCoMo and LongMemEval show OSL-MR outperforms recency-based, Generative Agents-style, and other heuristic baselines, especially under tight budgets. The Mixed-Score prior improves precision and recall, and sensitivity analysis shows robustness across cost settings. On small solvable instances, single-step optimization is insufficient to anticipate future demand shifts, while OSL-MR stays significantly closer to the dynamic-programming optimum, confirming the necessity of the sequential formulation and reinforcing our learning-guided approximation. These results establish constrained stochastic optimization and optimization-guided learning as a principled foundation for memory management in long-horizon agents.