Personalized generation systems retrieve user history by request--memory relevance and inject it into the model context. Yet relevant history may concern the wrong preference aspect, duplicate public information, or provide insufficient support. We argue that personal memory should be used only when it adds utility beyond a public-only response. We propose TRACE-Memory, a two-stage framework for selective personalization. Stage 1 queries for user-specific information missing from the request and public context, then retrieves a coverage-oriented candidate pool. Stage 2 admits a compact subset of source-traceable evidence units, or the empty set, according to response-level incremental utility. We progressively train the query-generation and evidence-admission policies through structured SFT initialization, reduced-space stage-wise GRPO warm-up, and nested multi-sample Joint GRPO. Across 4,500 Controlled and Natural tasks from Goodreads, Amazon Reviews, and Reddit, TRACE-Memory consistently outperforms random and lexical memory use, improves over semantic retrieval, remains competitive with frontier-LLM memory pipelines as local generator capacity increases, and conditions evidence admission on public-context sufficiency, supporting selective rather than default personalization.
Large language models (LLMs) are increasingly deployed as personalized assistants that interact with users over extended periods of time. As conversations grow longer, relying on full interaction histories becomes increasingly inefficient and unreliable: long contexts introduce substantial computational overhead, making it difficult for models to consistently identify and utilize the most relevant information for the current request. These challenges have motivated memory systems that structure and retrieve user-specific information. In realistic interactions, users often seek practical guidance such as recommendations, planning, and decision support. Unlike factual recall tasks, personalized guidance requires models to integrate information across multiple past conversations and reason about changing user preferences and experiences. However, existing conversational memory evaluations mainly focus on retrieval and factual recall. To study this challenge, we introduce PRAGMA, a benchmark for evaluating personalized guidance in long-term conversations. PRGAMA contains curated longitudinal conversation histories, evidence annotations, and guidance scenarios grounded in evolving user contexts and incorrect user assumptions. Experiments across retrieval systems, memory systems, and long-context models reveal that current systems struggle both to recover the appropriate conversational evidence and to effectively use it for personalized guidance. Our results highlight the need for memory architectures that support robust conversational retrieval and memory-grounded reasoning beyond evidence recall.
Existing large language model (LLM) based memory systems apply universal, static policies that overlook a fundamental reality: the contexts that are worth storing in memory are different across users. This misalignment wastes limited memory budget on transient interactions while failing to preserve critical context for long horizon tasks. To address this gap, we investigate an underexplored question: can LLM based memory systems learn personalized memory policies? We introduce PerMemBench, the first benchmark for evaluating personalized memory systems, featuring multi year, multi domain interaction histories across diverse user personas. We further present the first empirical study of memory personalization, proposing session level storage gating, a lightweight framework that selectively bypasses memory operations for transient sessions. Our study confirms that personalization yields substantial retention gains under perfect gating, yet reveals that accurate gating remains an open and critical challenge.
Long-term memory enables language model agents to support personalized interactions, but it remains unclear when available memories warrant integration into responses. Existing memory evaluations emphasize retrieval accuracy and downstream task utility, while overlooking whether retrieved sensitive memory content is warranted in the current turn. We introduce RBI-Eval, a controlled measurement study built around a probe set that compares model behavior with and without access to sensitive memory under identical benign prompts. We evaluate four base LLMs against a matched no-memory reference across four memory-access settings: full-context exposure and three retrieval systems. Our results reveal substantial behavioral divergence. With memory available, the separation score for sensitive-memory integration decreases by 8.9%--26.6% relative to the matched no-memory reference for GPT-5.4-mini, but by 51.1%--82.9% for Claude-Sonnet-4.6, DeepSeek-V4-Flash, and Qwen3.5-9B. Control experiments on DeepSeek and GPT-5.4-mini show this effect is specific to sensitive content, rather than general personalization. Retrieval systems reduce exposure but do not eliminate integration once sensitive memory reaches the generator. These findings suggest safe personalization requires memory-aware decisions at both retrieval and generation time.