SpatialMem is a memory-based system which integrates 3D geometry, semantics, and language with one another in one combined, queryable representation. Starting with casually recorded egocentric RGB video, SpatialMem recreates metrically scaled interior scenes, recognizes structural 3D anchors (walls, doors, windows) as the first-layer scaffold, and associates open-vocabulary object nodes with evidence patches, visual embeddings, and two-layer descriptions to 3D coordinates, enabling spatial-relation reasoning, language-directed retrieval, and QA without special sensors. We test at scale on public benchmarks. On VSI-Bench (
288 videos,
5,130 questions) SpatialMem scores
37.5 overall with RGB alone, and its margin is precisely where a metric memory should earn it (room size
41.4 vs.\
24.4 with a same-size frame model). On the episodic-memory task of OpenEQA (
953 questions) the memory serialised to text is lower than the blind control, but as evidence-frame retrieval it recovers frame-level accuracy, matching uniform sampling at an equal eight-frame budget and pulling ahead as the budget tightens, with every answer grounded in linked 3D evidence. On
12 ScanNet scenes evaluated using instance-level official annotations, the anchor-first hierarchy assigns the retrieved object to the proper structural parent where open-vocabulary 3D scene graphs essentially cannot (
0.24 compared to
0.01 with matched input), a capability difference instead of an overall win. The queryable index has a cost of
14,KB per scene without the linked evidence frames, and we make available the suites, memories and code.