cs.AIOct 18, 2026

When Empathy Misses the Goal: A Benchmark for Goal Displacement in LLM Advice

Authors: Dean Ariel, Guy Laban

Organizations: Department of Family Medicine, Clalit Health Services, Tel Aviv District, Israel · Faculty of Medicine and Health Sciences, Tel Aviv University, Tel Aviv, Israel · Stein Faculty of Computer and Information Science, Ben-Gurion University of the Negev, Beer Sheva, Israel · Department of Industrial Engineering and Management, Ben-Gurion University of the Negev, Beer Sheva, Israel · 

Abstract

Conversational large language models can respond with warmth and reassurance while failing to advance the user's stated goal. We conceptualize this failure as goal displacement\textbf{goal displacement}, the substitution of persona-maintenance content for goal-relevant substance. To measure it, we introduce GDB\textbf{GDB} (Goal Displacement Benchmark), comprising 230 scenarios across nine domains and 4,1344{,}134 human-scored responses from 18 models. A 2×22 \times 2 taxonomy crosses hard constraints with emotional distress, distinguishing failures to confront infeasible goals or combine empathy with practical guidance from reverse displacement, where unsolicited problem-solving replaces requested emotional support. A deletion-test rubric assesses whether substantive help remains after purely supportive sentences are removed. Independent raters achieve weighted κ=0.82κ= 0.82 against author scores for displacement severity. Trap displacement ranges from 0.0%0.0\% to 37.7%37.7\% and is strongly negatively correlated with Chatbot Arena Elo (ρ=−0.706ρ= -0.706, n=15n = 15). Reverse displacement reaches 41.9%41.9\%, including substantial rates in models with negligible trap displacement. A factorial probe supports a distinction from social sycophancy. Human-scored responses in the high-complexity, low-pressure condition exhibit 35.0%35.0\% sycophancy but 7.5%7.5\% displacement, with little association between the constructs. Matched OLMo-2 checkpoints show that mixed empathy-with-constraints displacement remains at 52.3%52.3\% after supervised fine-tuning and falls to 13.8%13.8\% after direct preference optimization. GDB provides a reproducible diagnostic of whether responses advance the operationalized user goal, supporting model comparison, post-training evaluation, and regression testing. We release the dataset, annotations, and rubric under CC-BY-4.0 and the evaluation code under MIT.

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