Personalizing Embodied Multimodal Large Language Model Agents over Long-term User Interactions

Existing large language model (LLM) based memory systems apply universal, static policies that overlook a fundamental reality: the contexts that are worth storing in memory are different across users. This misalignment wastes limited memory budget on transient interactions while failing to preserve critical context for long horizon tasks. To address this gap, we investigate an underexplored question: can LLM based memory systems learn personalized memory policies? We introduce PerMemBench, the first benchmark for evaluating personalized memory systems, featuring multi year, multi domain interaction histories across diverse user personas. We further present the first empirical study of memory personalization, proposing session level storage gating, a lightweight framework that selectively bypasses memory operations for transient sessions. Our study confirms that personalization yields substantial retention gains under perfect gating, yet reveals that accurate gating remains an open and critical challenge.

Long-term memory systems allow LLM agents to preserve information beyond a single context window, but most systems focus on storing and retrieving facts after extraction, leaving the write decision under-specified. What deserves memory can depend on the user's current task, topic, activity, or interaction partner, while uniform extraction applies one notion of importance across these different situations. We formulate this challenge as preference-conditioned write control and introduce AdaMem, which uses adaptive natural-language Memory Policies to personalize what an agent writes to memory. Each policy represents the user's memory preference for a particular interaction context, is updated from periodic feedback, and controls subsequent memory writing. We evaluate this loop in AdaMem-Bench, which assigns different memory preferences to six concurrent interaction personas across five ten-week stories. Across two extraction models and two feedback modes, AdaMem improves average QA accuracy over Mem0 from 80.0% to 84.35% while reducing persistent memory by 9.27%. Our analyses show that explicit feedback helps models learn better memory policies, but current models still struggle to translate those policies into reliably selective writing behavior. AdaMem thus demonstrates the promise of adaptive write control while exposing policy execution as a central limitation of current memory agents. Our code is publicly available: https://github.com/galaxyChen/AdaMem

Long-term memory is essential for multimodal agents to build coherent experience, accumulate world knowledge, and achieve continual learning. However, constructing effective memory goes beyond memory module design and basic requirements such as accuracy and fidelity; the key challenge lies in determining what to memorize. Multimodal agents, such as embodied agents, continuously perceive, reason, and act in real or virtual environments, receiving an unbounded stream of multimodal observations. From this combinatorial explosion of information, an agent must selectively retain content that is relevant to its role in the environment and valuable for future tasks. To bridge this gap, we frame memory generation as a learnable memorization policy and introduce TaskMem (Task-focused Memorization Policy Learning), a reinforcement-learning-based framework that enables the policy to dynamically adjust its focus to the demands of real tasks encountered in the environment. TaskMem adopts a two-phase training paradigm: Phase One learns how to memorize by optimizing memory quality under fundamental fidelity requirements; Phase Two occurs after deployment, where the agent learns what to memorize by tuning an adapter on its base MLLM, using recent environment tasks to define a reward model that guides the memorization policy toward task-relevant content. To evaluate our approach, we reformulate VideoMME, EgoLife, and EgoTempo into streaming benchmarks that simulate a realistic setting in which an agent processes streaming observations and handles tasks arriving online. To isolate memory assessment, the questions must be answered using only the agent's memory, without access to raw video. Built on Qwen3-VL-30B-A3B, TaskMem improves VQA accuracy by 6.3%, 7.0%, and 5.3% on these benchmarks, respectively.