TD-DPO: Difference-Aware Preference Optimization for Mitigating Sycophancy in Clinical Autism Intervention Dialogue

Sycophantic agreement refers to a behavior in which language models excessively affirm the user, often at the cost of factual accuracy. Although sycophantic agreement is a well-known failure of model alignment, there is limited understanding of how it emerges from model training. In this work, we demonstrate that sycophantic agreement can emerge as an unintended consequence of widely used contrastive preference optimization objectives. Using the OLMo 3 post-training pipeline, we show that, for various pairs of teacher models across three families, there is a strong correlation between the log-ratio of the teacher model sycophantic agreement rates and the resulting student model sycophantic agreement rate. We further demonstrate that this unintended transfer is not limited to DPO but also occurs across 6 other preference optimization objectives. To understand whether this effect can be attributed to particular training examples, we analyze the preference data and find that the sycophancy signal is diffused across the entire dataset rather than concentrated in a sparse set of examples: each example appears neutral, i.e., there are no explicit instances of sycophantic agreement, and filtering based on probe-based data attribution or logit-linear selection fails to mitigate sycophancy without removing a large portion of the dataset. Overall, our findings suggest that the teacher models used to generate preference data can interact with alignment training objectives in unexpected ways, generalizing to undesirable and potentially harmful behaviors like sycophantic agreement.

Direct Preference Optimization (DPO) aligns Large Language Models with human preferences without the need for a separate reward model. However, DPO treats all tokens in responses equally, neglecting the differing importance of individual tokens. Existing token-level PO methods compute the token weights using either token-position-based heuristic functions or probability estimates given by a separately trained model, which lacks robustness and incurs extra training cost. In contrast, we propose Token-weighted DPO (TwDPO) -- a novel training objective grounded on token-weighted RL -- and AttentionPO -- an instantiation of TwDPO that uses attention from the LLM itself to estimate token weights. AttentionPO prompts the LLM to serve as a pairwise judge and check where the model attends when comparing the responses. This design makes AttentionPO content-aware, adjusting weights based on response content, and efficient, incurring only two extra forward passes per example. Experiment results show that AttentionPO significantly improves performance on AlpacaEval, MT-Bench, and ArenaHard, surpassing existing Preference Optimization methods.

DPO has become a widely adopted alternative to RLHF for aligning LLMs with human preferences, eliminating the need for a separate reward model or RL loop. Recent theoretical analysis uncovers an asymmetric gradient behavior in DPO: the loss suppresses dispreferred responses substantially faster than it promotes preferred ones, causing the model to learn to avoid bad answers rather than to generate good ones. We propose AdaDPO, a Self-Adaptive variant of the DPO algorithm that introduces per-preference-pair, stop-gradient-based coefficients derived directly from the policy model's generation probabilities, with the reference model's probabilities as an optional component. AdaDPO is constructed to enforce equality of gradient magnitudes between preferred and dispreferred probabilities; the practical implementation balances per-token gradients and applies a numerical clipping bound for stability, while retaining DPO's original hyperparameter structure. On Llama-3-8B-Instruct trained on UltraFeedback under a SimPO similar setup, AdaDPO consistently outperforms DPO on AlpacaEval 2: it achieves higher length-controlled win rates (LC) in 81% of hyperparameter combinations, attains the global best LC (48.3%) and raw win rate (46.1%), and enlarges the LC-over-WR margin in 88% of combinations, indicating effective mitigation of length bias. Additional analyses on KL divergence, reward margin, and reward accuracy confirm that AdaDPO rectifies the gradient imbalance and yields more efficient optimization. Because it operates purely at the loss level, AdaDPO can be dropped into existing preference-based alignment pipelines without changing data collection or model architectures. The method requires only a few lines of code, and the same self-adaptive principle generalizes to a broad family of pairwise contrastive preference losses including SimPO, R-DPO, IPO, CPO, and ORPO.