cs.LGOct 16, 2026

Learning Personalized Memory Gating from Delayed One-Sided Feedback

Authors: Kaixuan Ji, Zixiang Chen, Wenting Zhao, Cheng Qian, Heng Wang, Weizhi Zhang, Jielin Qiu, Liangwei Yang, 

Organizations: Salesforce AI Research · University of California, Los Angeles · University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign · University of Illinois Chicago

Abstract

Long-term memory enables language-model agents to personalize future interactions, but a finite memory bank cannot preserve every extracted fact. Existing memory gating policies are typically shared across users and therefore fail to account for user-specific patterns of future reuse. In this paper, we study memory gating at the fact level. We first propose a retrieval-based labeling strategy that labels each fact by whether it is later retrieved and incorporated into responses. We then formulate online memory gating as contextual apple tasting with delayed one-sided feedback, and propose Warm-Start UCB, which combines offline learning from existing data with online adaptation to the current user. Our theoretical analysis establishes a high-probability regret upper bound of O~(Tε∧dT)\tilde{O}(Tε\wedge d\sqrt{T}) when the delay window is at most O(T)O(\sqrt{T}), where TT is the total number of rounds, εε is the initialization error, dd is the dimension of the feature map, and O~(⋅)\tilde{O}(\cdot) hides constant and poly-logarithmic factors. The results of our experiment demonstrate that our method outperforms all baselines under different memory budgets and history lengths, establishing it as a promising personalized memory gating policy.

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